As I was formatting my Rector's computer, I told him that I prefered to "teach him the ropes." Of course it would have been easier for me just to fix the computer myself. But then he would constantly be dependent on me all the time. Instead, making him (almost 70 yrs old) do things himself would surely be more difficult and time-consuming for both of us. However he would not have to call me after.
They say dependency is something we consciously impinge on others. We sort of want people to depend on us always. though it makes us feel better emotionally, in the long run, we create perpetual babies. It's true that it is a joy to carry a baby in our arms. We like it and so does the baby. But the baby ultimately has to learn to walk and this he does by moving away from us.
As for me, I'd rather let the baby walk. After all if You do not baby me, it doesn't mean You do not love me. You love me so much that You gave me the "freedom" to walk away or towards you. And that is Your Glory.