Thus the way we present ourselves and how we are seen immediately- causes more impact than who and what we really are.
It's because the world is so impatient to stay long with us to experience the real "we" (short attention span). Thus, how we make use of media (our speech, our presentations, our interactions) could make us look like "the sweetest and cutest little girl" or even make others whom we dislike look like "the meanest of wolves" (a Red Riding Hood allegory). It's because it's only what the world will see and probably believe.
So which is the real "WE" then?
Reality they say, could only be based on real knowledge and this could spawn real love.
As the rabbit would ask "And what is real?" the Skin Horse would reply:
"Real isn't how you are made to look. It's when a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but Really loves you, then you become Real.
And it doesn't happen all at once. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily. By the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get all loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand." (adapted from The Velveteen Rabbit by Margerie Williams)
It's not what the world thinks or says of YOU. It is only when I experience You or any other person... when I spend time with You or any other person... when I journey with You or any other person... that You or any other become truly REAL to me.